Tuesday, February 07, 2006
Have you ever look back at your past and wonder what it would be like if certain things had not happen? I think alot of us do.
In our teenage - late teenage years, I believe most of us would have this ONE relationship which we would never forget for the rest of our life.
1) It is usually NOT the first love. (although most people say first love is the most unforgettable...I don't think so myself...)
2) The relationship typically lasts for 2 - 7 years.
3) You thought that the other party is 'The One' and both of you will eventually get married.
But, only heaven knows why, this is the relationship that will NEVER work out. And you'll never ever have the exact same kind of feelings again. Is it because we're still young then and as we grow older, we learnt that there are alot more important things in this world other than love? Or is it because we have learnt our lesson after putting in so much effort in a failed relationship?
Looking back at the relationship, if we were able to change a few nitty-gritty details about it or if certain things had not happened, there's a high chance of ending up happily-ever-after. So why is there always SOMETHING that breaks it up? Why then are we brought up reading about fairytale endings in 'Cinderella', 'Snow White and the Seven Dwarves', 'Sleeping Beauty' etc? Why are we brought up with illusions about the world?
When I was 16, a respectable grown-up said that one might not marry someone whom she loves most in her life. Recently, a doctor-to-be who's almost 10 years my senior, married and with a little girl, told me that Women actually doesn't need Men. Modern women can support themselves, juggle between the duties at work and at home, etc etc etc. Even giving birth to children can be done as long as there's a sperm from Men. So Men are only a sperm's worth. (HAHAHA)
So that's what the Grown-up World is like. Dreams we had as little girls are just dreams afterall.
Hmmm...I don't know what prompted me to blog about this. But I'm reading this fictional book called 'Sophie's World' by Jostein Gaarder. It's a part story, part history of philosophy book. Really interesting. Probably that caused me to think more about what and why some things are happening in this world. Here's an excerpt from the book which I really feel makes alot of sense:
One morning, Mom, Dad and little Thomas, aged two or three, are having breakfast in the kitchen. After a while, Mom gets up and goes over to the kitchen sink and Dad-yes, Dad-flies up and floats around under the ceiling while Thomas sits watching. What do you think Thomas says? Perhaps he points up at his father and says: "Daddy's flying!" Thomas will certainly be astonished, but then he very often is. Dad does so many strange things that this business of a little flight over the breakfast table makes no difference to him. Every day Dad shaves with a funny machine, sometimes he climbs onto the roof and turns the TV aerial-or else he sticks his head under the hood of the car and comes up black in the face.
Now it's Mom's turn. She hears what Thomas says and turns around abruptly. How do you think she reacts to the sight of Dad floating nonchalantly over the kitchen table?
She drops the jam jar on the floor and screams with fright. She may even need medical attention once Dad has returned respectably to his chair. Why do you think Thomas and his mother react so differently?
It all has to do with habit. Mom has learned that people cannot fly. Thomas has not. He still isn't certain what you can and cannot do in this world.
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The world itself becomes a habit in no time at all. It seems as if in the process of growing up we lose the ability to wonder about the world. And in doing so, we lose something central-something philosophers try to restore. For somewhere inside ourselves, something tells us that life is a huge mystery. This is something we once experienced, long before we learned to think the thought.
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