Monday, January 23, 2006
Okay, what I'm about to say might sound a little complicating plus it's a super long story. But please listen ok?? I need to know whether my thinking is right/wrong!!!
Yesterday, I went to a couple's house (they are my friends la of course). At their house, I saw someone whom I haven't seen in a very long time. She's the ex-girlfriend of my ex-boyfriend's bestest friend (hmm...can catch?). I think I better give them names.
Ex-Gf of ex-bf bestest friend: Ms A
Ex-Bf bestest friend: Mr W
Anyway, since Ms A and I haven't met in such a long time, we talked a little. Found out that she's been unattached ever since the break-up with Mr W half a year ago. I was quite surprised because at that time, she was rumoured to have fallen for another guy. That's why Mr W asked for a break-up. If so, shouldn't she be with her new beau now? My head if full of fog and water (direct translation from Chinese...hahaha).
She left after awhile and I found out EVERYTHING from my super-resourceful-and-always-update-me couple friends (WAHAHAHA).
The REAL story goes like this:
At that time, Ms A had just started work at a hotel after graduating from poly. As all people with common sense would know, people who work in hotels have different shifts including those midnight ones. So at that time, Ms A didn't have as much time to accompany Mr W like when she's still studying. Mr W complained that she never picked up his calls. Neither does she call back. Then, rumours about her and another new guy were flying around. From my understanding of Mr W, he's someone who trusts everyone and takes things as it appears to be without questioning further. So as expected, he believed in those rumours and chose to break up with Ms A.
From what I heard from my friends, Ms A was very sad at that time and wanted to know why he broke up with her. After that, she concluded that it must be a misunderstanding coz at that point in time, she was in contact with her ex-bf who was in some sort of business to help out one of her friends. Maybe sway-sway someone saw the only-one-time that she had met up with her ex-bf. Plus she's very busy with work and couldn't answer calls (coz she's working and after work, it's already like 4am?? --> Who the hell would return call at 4am???!!!!). Thus, they started to drift apart and end up breaking up.
But several weeks later after the break-up, Mr W began seeing another girl.
Another girl: Ms F (I dunno what's her name but F stands for f**ker. WAHAHAHAHA)
You all might think, "WAH LAU, how come so fast started dating another girl already?? BASTARD!" That's what I was thinking at first too. But after thinking thru, Mr W is someone who's too easily affected by what his friends say and thus I forgive him. And let me made known to all of you: Alot of his friends are bastards. So probably those bastard friends were saying "WAH LAU, you see she cheated on you leh. Ms F not bad mah...quite pretty...treat you good also...why not give it a try...?" And he fell into the trap just like that. The Trap of No Return.
I have never seen Ms F before. But from what I heard, she's a Xiao (small) Lian. She's a very petite and small-sized girl. Plus she's very wilful and therefore they quarrel very frequently. Oh yah, and she's super-childish also. She purposely go and look for Ms A in Friendster and add her. When Ms A asked who she is, she sent a picture of Mr W and her to Ms A and told her that she's Mr W's girlfriend now and told Ms A not to bear any hopes of reconciling with Mr W. EH F**K LOH, HOW CHILDISH IS THAT??!!!! NOWADAYS YOUNGSTERS SO CHILDISH ONE AH???!!!! (if Ms F is in front of me now I'll definitely strangle her)
But this is not the main thing, the main thing now is: Ms F is pregnant now!!!!! And Mr W intends to marry her!!!!! OMG!!!!!! OH MY GOD!!!! OH MY GOD!!!!!!
They have only been together for half a year leh. Why must get married because of an unborn child? Eh, dun say I cruel la but you all think people should get married when they're still so young and unprepared and financially unstable meh??? Not to mention this girl is sooo...ermmm...not a good girl. (Trying to extinguish the fire burning ferociously inside me and say some nice things)
I think Mr W's decision to marry her because of her pregnancy is also partly due to his friends (married couples) around him. Maybe he thinks it's the norm at his age to get married (BUT HE DIDN'T TAKE INTO CONSIDERATION OTHER FACTORS!!!!!!!!!):
1) Like my couple friend who's telling me this story. They are married with a son and are living a happily-ever-after life.
But please loh, they are different. They have been working for a few years already before getting married. --> FINANCIALLY STABLE. They did not get married because of pregnancy, they got married because they felt that it's the right time. --> CORRECT CONCEPT OF MARRIAGE. They have been in the relationship for at least 5 years before the marriage. --> ENOUGH TIME TO UNDERSTAND EACH OTHER WELL.
2) The Mr C and Ms T I talked about in my early blogging days. They already ROM-ed, and I heard that their wedding dinner will be held this June.
They are different also. Although Mr C is still in NS (but I think he's finishing soon), he has a bright future ahead of him coz he has a Diploma in Design. Ms T has all along been working since I've known her. Might be studying part-time also. A very BIG PLUS is that Mr C comes from a rich family with a family business and huge sums of heritance waiting for him. --> FINANCIALLY STABLE. Again, they did not get married because of pregnancy, they got married because they felt that it's the right time. Maybe partly because at that time Mr C's mum was sick and wished to see his son get married also. --> CORRECT CONCEPT OF MARRIAGE. They have been in the relationship for at least 4 years already. --> ENOUGH TIME TO UNDERTAND EACH OTHER WELL. (so I guess even if Ms T's a bitch, Mr C is willing to accept her as who she is also)
3) There's another couple, Mr M and Ms R who got married last year and is blessed with a son now. (From the photos Ms R uploaded on Friendster, their son looks quite cute!)
They are also different okay. Mr M had been working for at least a year before they got married. Ms R had been working all along since I've known her. Mr M also comes from quite a rich family who is willing to give some support to the couple and their baby. --> FINANCIALLY STABLE. They also got married because of Ms R's pregnancy aka Shotgun Marriage, but they have been together for at least 3 - 4 years already. --> ENOUGH TIME TO UNDERSTAND EACH OTHER WELL.
BUT for Mr W and Ms F???!!!!!
I heard that Ms F is working as a cosmetic-girl. (I've always think that this kind of cosmetic-girl job cannot be a permanent job one. You think la, you old and full of wrinkles already will the company still want you to sell their beauty products??!!!) Mr W is intending to resign and leave his current job position. (Whatever reason it may be, I don't know.) From what I know, his family is not very rich, around average or maybe abit below average. --> FINANCIALLY UNSTABLE. Intending to get married because Ms F is pregnant. --> WRONG CONCEPT OF MARRIAGE. They have only been together for 1/2 a year!!!!!!!!!!!!! --> DEFINITELY NOT ENOUGH TIME TO DIG OUT THE GOOD AND BAD OF EACH OTHER.
CONCLUSION:
The marriage is so wrong!!!!! Sigh, but who are we to say or advise about such things? It's totally up to the 2 of them and their families. Maybe I'm the one who's wrong. They might get along very well afterall and live happily ever after. At least I hope this would be the case.
The sad thing is, Ms A is still waiting for Mr W. I think she gets along very well with Mr W's family and she misses the time spent with his family. She said as long as Mr W is not married, she still has a chance. She doesn't know that Mr W is getting married and my kind couple-friends could not bear to be the ones breaking the news to her. Let Mr W tell her himself then, since they still keep in contact with each other...
I'm not sure why I'm so agitated about Mr W's coming-marriage. I guess I still see him as a friend although we no longer keep in contact. And I just want my friends to be happy. Anyway, my purpose in telling this story is, I think 'youngsters' nowadays don't take marriage seriously. It's one thing to be in a relationship but a totally different thing to step into a marriage. Marriage takes much more effort to sustain. You can just break up anytime you want in a relationship but for marriage, you have to think about your children (if any), your house, your car and all other assets the both of you share. Furthermore, you have to go thru counselling sessions, a few years of separation before the 2 of you can officially sign the legal documents to divorce. Not to mention the legal fees incurred too.
I really think that people should get married to the right one or don't get married at all. Don't get married for the sake of getting married. Or am I wrong in thinking that way? Why else would people around me be doing otherwise? Sigh...'youngsters' nowadays...I really don't understand them...It's not like our age-gap is very wide, but why is there such a vast difference in our thinking??
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