Wednesday, September 21, 2005
Recently found out that alot of people are very unhappy. Although they might seem okay on the outside, deep down they are the exact opposite of 'okay'. Coincidentally, all unhappy people are unhappy due to relationship problems. It doesn't matter whether you are in or out of love, once it INVOLVES the word 'love' or 'relationship', you are in for deep shit as love is the root of all evil...
There is a girlfriend of mine who had a very stable and blissful relationship with her boyfriend for a few years until recently. Problems started to surface when her boyfriend ORDed and entered into a local university. Previously, she stayed with her bf at his house as her bf can book out every night. But now that her bf is staying at the school hostel and he seems to be always busy with his school work, they only get to meet up during the weekends. Although i do not know the exact problems, but I know that my friend is very unhappy nowadays (although she is trying to act normal in front of us).
Why is it that even the simplest change in one's lifestyle can alter and crumble the whole relationship? Changes are inevitable in one's life and if every change shakes the very foundation that a relationship is built on, no relationship will ever work out.
Crossing over from singlehood to couplehood by marriage seems like a big decision in life. I can't help but wonder whether life will be much better on the other side. Looking at my married friends, they are sort of 'forced' to lead a 'monotonous life' without any major changes. I mean they got to work, meet up after work and go back home together after work. Life for them will be even more 'monotonous' after having children, less time for friends and more time for your children. With a life like that which is devoid of any changes, does it mean that the both of you will live 'happily ever after'? If yes, I really hope that I can lead such a life as soon as possible (And this seems to be the case for my married friends). I am tired of testing and trying in hope of finding 'the right one'. And I no longer believe in Mr Right anyway. The person you marry is just another guy you like who came along at the right time in your life.
Someone once told me, there will be 3 major love in one's life. One will be the one you had loved the most. Second will be the one who loved you the most. The third will be the one you eventually marry. If you are the lucky one who have only one love in your life and it is also the same for your partner, congratulations, you got a 3-in-1 and you may proceed to live happily forever and ever. For the rest of us out there, though sad, but it's a fact, so accept it.
Elyse bitching @ 8:19 PM | comment
